"MARRIAGE"

We would like to ask you for an advice because we are getting married!
If you already decided to get married what do you need the advice for?
Oh! Because we are not really sure everything is going to be right,
that is why!
Well I think nobody is really sure of that, but, the most important think is: Do you love each other?
Very much! But.. ..
But what?
That is what we are trying to find out!
Hey! What is the matter with you? Are you trying to make me crazy?
If you two are not really sure what you want, how am I going to be able
to help you?
If we were sure, we wouldn’t be asking for counseling!
Don’t you think so?
Yes! It is true! I’m sorry!
I ‘m going to explain you something, and God please, help me!
Men are just one half of a “machine” women are the other half!
Both were made different, think different act different!
For both, certain things have greater priorities than others, however, the
most important for women are not always the most important for men.
And of course, it will be an error to try to make the women priorities
the same ones for men, do you understand?
No! Not very well!
All right! I am going to explain it in another way:
We should not force them to be like us!
Or let them make us to think like them! Because we both are different!
We both were made for different purposes!
And to change it is not healthy! It is not recommended for the couple,
because this won’t help anyone!
And what if this happens,
Well, it happens that no one is happy!
It begins and unbalanced situation! One person dominating the other!
For their own defeat! Of course!
Yes! Now we understood! Thank you!
Let me give you an example:
Take for instance a Duet, a couple of persons singing at the same time,
One person sings in a tone and the other in a lower or a higher one,
and sounds very nice, because they harmonize and make it a pleasant
sound for the ones that are listening, but if they both sing in the same
tone, without harmony it sounds horrible!
A marriage without harmony does not function right and both suffer!
One should respect the tone of the other person and not grab both,
because when this happens, he or she will be neither of the two!
Something else:
Men and women, we both have bad habits, and if we thing we could
correct them after we get married we are in a big error, if we could
not correct them before, after marriage it is practically impossible!
This is also a mistake!
We should accept each other as we are and not as we should be!
and not try to change each other repeating every day the same thing!
Probably with love, they change by themselves!
Oh God! When are you going to change him, or her, and God answers:
After you change!
Because it is very easy to see the errors in other people but very hard
to see our own errors and bad habits!
We should not get married to be happy!
But to make happy our couple!
The Bible says that when we get married we stop to be two people
And begin to be ONE! Genesis 2-24.
I becomes we, mine becomes ours!
When I persist, marriage won’t resist! It breaks apart!
When a couple is united in one, there is nothing impossible!
The two halves together assemble into a powerful machine!
But if one try to dominate the other, the machine stops working!
We should not get married just for not to be lonesome,
Or just for sex, or for beauty or only to form a family, we should
get married before anything else, to make our couple happy!
Everything else comes by itself!
If you think you could be able to do this trough the years to come,
GO AHEAD DO IT!
Otherwise, the sweet dream of marriage results in a horrible
nightmare, that culminates into a divorce.
Just for an error!
Error? What error?
The error of thinking that the duty to make happy belongs to the
“other” person, and both seat down to wait, and never shows up!
It is the duty of both! If one fails, both suffer!
There is more pleasure in giving that in receiving, said Jesus,
And that means: Happiness comes to us, not when we restrain it,
but when we give it away!
Oh! I was forgetting something:
Respect is a very important issue! Everything bad starts when we
stop respecting our couple!
I hope I have helped you!
Oh yes! We are going to be very happy! Because, I am going to buy
everything for her, and she is going to buy everything for me!
That is not right!
Material things won’t buy happiness! Happiness come trough little
things, nice words, kindness, a little token of love!
Flowers, your favorite dish, something that makes your heart happy!
A golden cage won’t make the bird happy!
Yes! You are right!
Marriage is a couple united with a string, and this string should be used
to help each other to ascend the highest mountains of life and not to try
to hang up each other with it!
I think that when this happens, the best should be to cut the rope,
to avoid a tragedy!
Material things don’t change the feelings of people!
The only thing that can change the feelings of the whole world:
Is LOVE!

HAPPINESS IS TO GIVE!
IT IS TO LOVE!
MY BEST WISHES TO BOTH
AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU!

Jose Salazar
S. de C.
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